We know that by following the rules (ALL of the rules), you will see success and progress week over week. I believe we all know this intellectually, but oftentimes our emotions get in the way of intellectual thinking which can lead to self-doubt and saboutage our approach to a healthier us,
a real debate that goes on in my head sounds like this:
Me: Okay, people are seeing the scale move in the right direction. I did great yesterday and can't wait to step on the scale to see how much I am down!
<scale groans with equal passion as it did yesterday and no change>
My worst enemy (also me): Lard Ass! Okay, just kidding about the Lard ass comment,. :) hmmm...I did everything I was supposed to do yesterday, was close to perfect on Tuesday, and though I chose not to exercise on Monday, everything else was pretty good, so maybe this is just another diet program that is not for me so continue the game (at least as best I can knowing I am not going to see the results everyone else sees because my body and reasons for being heavy are different from others), support your teammates and set them up for success, and at the end of 4 weeks, find something else to try.
Me (my biggest supporter): "Don't be retarded! Consider that the program and plan works and consider that you haven't given it a chance to be successful. Think about what you read and the principles that are outlined. You believe in them, you know that when you are disciplined, you see success over time (in this case, week over week). Also consider that you really didn't have a perfect day yesterday. You know your mind is scatterbrained right now and you know you are not sleeping well and when you exercise, you might be going through the motions vs. getting the ultimate benefits of focused and deliberate strengthening, lengthening, toning your muscles and/or building your aerobic capacity.
My worst enemy (me): Yeah, what do you expect? You half assed the workout even though you got 55 minutes in instead of 20 deliberate, potentially intense minutes, you ate 5 times yesterday (you think!), but you didn't write it down to be sure, and you go caught up in work (or be honest, you worked really late to distract yourself from other stresses in your life and pretended to be the noble worker). Oh yeah, and the snack sized candy you ate and justified b/c it was little and probably less than 100 calories, what do you think that is doing for ya? Just give up! Blame it on the faultiness of the program looking for something else. Create a list of reasons this program doesn't work for you and share that with your friends as you either encourage them to do it because they are the right body type or current weight or current level of exerciser that this book was REALLY designed for or discourage them from trying because you didn't see success and your friends are just like you, so they won't see success either.
Me (my biggest motivator): You're right! I have not been as disiplined and focused as I know I need to be. I have had success in the past and the behaviors I demonstrated when I was successful are not being demonstrated 100% of the time during. I am not going to beat myself up, nor am I going to give up. It was hard to create or engage those behaviors and I get frustrated that they are not easy, but I am not giving up! I am committed to this for me and committed to this for my friends who are doing this with me.
My point:consider that it is just a matter of time and the scale will move because you are following the plan! Consider that you are allowing yourself to be ALMOST Perfect thinking that will give you what you need and aren't really giving 100%! Consider that you are self deprecating when you see the scale hasn't moved and others are dropping pounds and that is saboutaging your belief in you! Consider that you can be truly happy for others who are seeing success and not see it as a negative about your own progress. Consider what you have direct control over. You can control whet you choose to eat. You can control when you choose to eat. You can control what time you go to bed and what time you wake up and what type of exercise you choose to do and when you will do it. You can choose to plan meals, and carry 3 liters of water with you and pack portable meals when you are on the go. Consider that it may (or likely will) require sacrificing something else, but isn't that what a chioice is, selecting one thing over another thing?
Consider that you can't control the number on the scale, but you can influence it by choosing to follow the plan, And influencing the number on the scale does not mean leaning a little to the front or back or removing hair clips and jewelry to get the scale to come down 0.2 lbs),
Choose to believe in your own capabilities and stop listening to your version of "my worst enemy: ME".
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